OK is there anything you DON’T have academic research or other wisdom on? LOL. You’re something else. This is really great perspective and I thank you for sharing it with us.

If a future-focused person is completely content that way, then that’s outstanding. But, it seems more likely to me that more often then not there remains a vague sense of unease or discontent. That “I’m just not enjoying my success” feeling.

I totally get the thrill of the chase. I’m probably also more toward that end of the continuum. But it’s important to remember that it is in fact a continuum, with room for even hardest chasers among us to pause, take a breath, reflect on what just happened, FEEL it, and then move on to the next chase. After all, we are human BEings, not humans DOing.

But in the end, as most things do, it comes back to “different strokes for different folks.”

Have an awesome holiday weekend, whatever you decide to do with it. BTW, that was some photo of you at the museum gala. Not fair that you are brilliant AND gorgeous.

Sounds like you guys have it nailed. I love the Friday night date night – the “ritual” of it is key – gotta get me some of that.
Enjoy your three days of zen!

Those of us on one end of the continua are incomprehensible to those on the other–which, she suggests, is at the root of all interpersonal communication misfires.

For those of us who are wired to keep our eyes on what’s next (and probably unfortunately, I speak from experience here), it can be enormously difficult to stop and just *be.* For us, the fun is in the chase–sitting still feels like no progress.

Might not sound like much of a life to those who relish the present, but it has its charms.

With the long holiday weekend that starts tonight, we’re looking forward to 3 days of “zen.” Thanks so much for the timely reminder.